OK so the communication between your iPhone and the PC is working if the start menu appeared when you pressed the printer icon.
Let's go simpler.
1. Open Notepad and focus it.
2. On the iPhone press the 1,2 or 3 buttons on the screen you should see "1", "2", "3" printed out in Notepad. Do you?
3. Next download the AlbumPlayer.xml profile from our downloads page and try our version.http://melloware.biz/products/intelliremote/profiles.zip
Let me know how it goes!